Tuesday, May 31, 2005

part III: brussels

Finally some sort of recap of the third leg of our recent (okay, it's been two weeks) holiday. Quick flight to Brussels, but not before stopping at the Dahlmayer's restaurant at the Munich airport for a spot of weisswurst before takeoff. Yum. :-) Just photos for now, but I will write more about Brussels soon.
As we walked from Gare Centraal to our hotel, we passed through the city's Gay Pride parade. I liked this sign...
Au Bon Vieux Temps, where Big Jim and I met all those years ago....It has not changed a bit. Many of the same characters, but also a wonderful revolving door of new ones (now that the Lonely Planet has included ABVT in its guide....)
The Grande Place, with its near-permanent gray sky.
City museum, where you can go see all the Mannekin Pis's costumes...
Always flowers for sale.
On the grounds of the Africa museum, in Tervuren.
Designated poop spot in the park....
And of course, a closeup of the sign... :-)
The Africa museum. We saw a fascinating special exhibit on the Congo.
Momma bird on her floating chaise.
Lots of little bunnies, too.
Back at Aux Bon Vieux Temps...ancient stained glass panel from monastery.
FRITLAND! Conveniently located on the way from ABVT to the hotel, excellent fries with huge selection of toppings. Just don't ask for ketchup. :-)

Monday, May 30, 2005

where am i?

It is gray and dreary, and every now and then rain spatters on the roof. I woke up this morning and thought, "Yes! Rain! A day without incessant banging and whirring of electrical saws! Wahoo!" No such luck. Loli and his team are at work. Like they are every day. Ugh, deep sigh. As I mentioned previously, the houses in the village are put together like jigsaw puzzles. For example, to stand in the ground floor (1st floor American) below our bedroom, one would go outside, down the steps, make a left, enter a house halfway down the street, walk to the back of that house, and finally one would be under our bedroom. So that's the killer about this house with the construction: I never even noticed it before because its front door is completely around the block. But what the owners have done/are doing is to completely gut the place, AND they are adding an entire new story to the top. AND they are putting a door in the narrow wall that separates our house from R.'s house. This door will lead into their 17-year-old son's bedroom. Apparently the mother is tired of him and his friends waking the family with their late hours, so he gets his own door. R. has done his bit and gone to the ayuntamiento to complain. The new door is literally six inches from his front door. But the village architect came to look at it and couldn't see what the fuss was all about. (Mind you, this is the same man who was leading the distinct projects of a new swimming pool and a new sports complex for the village, and it was only when the designs were near completion that he realized both were drawn to occupy the same [still] empty lot at the edge of town.) My hands are tied at the moment because the owners of the house are also the owners of the only auto garage in the village, the very one that seems to be holding my car hostage. M.A. took me to the coast Saturday, and on the way back, we drove by the garage. My car is sitting where I left it two weeks ago, collecting dust, while apparently nothing has been done to it. So, when the rain clears, that's another item on my "to do" list: walk down there and find out what the hell is going on. ************************************************ I had a much-needed three-hour conversation with my mother Friday. Topics included everything that has been bothering me, which I will get to writing about when I am feeling up to it. For now, I have to get to work. I am feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the editing and keeping up the house. I just don't seem to be able to work as fast as I used to. :-( hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Friday, May 27, 2005

fifth attempt

Don't think I haven't been wanting to blog because that is not the case. I have four drafts sitting here, but I haven't been able to finish any of them for one reason or another. But this morning's bombing in Islamabad has given me reason to complete this post, just so that everyone knows Big Jim is fine. He and his coworkers were advised earlier in the week to stay indoors today because there is a protest planned in regard to the now acknowledged "mishandling" of the Quran by those lovely people at Gitmo. Well done, folks. You certainly are making the world a safer place. (So when exactly is the Pentagon going to apologize to "Newsweek", that's what I want to know.....) Today's bombing, though, had nothing to do with any anti-American sentiment that may be felt by some Pakistanis. This appears to have been a Sunni/Shia conflict, although both were praying at the mosque when the suicide bomber(s) managed to get inside. But because of the recent events, Big Jim and I have had to put together a fairly complex "plan B" should the situation ever truly get hairy. Nasir (Big Jim's driver) has instructions; some very good Pakistani people have agreed to house BJ if necessary; and I have the contact numbers/e-mails of everyone. It is crazy that we have to think about these things, but as long as we Americans continue to be disrespectful of others, continue to imprison people without charging them with a crime or giving them access to legal representation, as long as we continue to listen to people like Bill O'Reilly, who recently said that Hitler would have been a card-carrying ACLU member---what can I say. We are not making friends on the playground. So another thing going on, I am trying really hard not to smoke. Other than a minor digression last night, I haven't been smoking since Monday. The first couple days were hell, but I'm doing better now. Rather than thinking about cigarettes constantly, I now only think about them every 5 or 10 minutes. However, I do feel like I am on speed or hyped up on lots of coffee. And I am saying "fuck" a lot, which is a word I typically reserve for the occasional added emphasis and is not part of my daily vernacular. So I don't know what that's all about, but I am being "gentle" with myself and not sweating it. I decided to do this while Big Jim was away, sparing him my withdrawal and associated side effects. I do love my husband. :-) And I promised my smoking friends here I will not become one of the horrible reformed smokers. In my heart, I will always be a smoker, and should I live to be 75 or so, I may start again, assuming of course that one is still allowed to smoke 38 years from now....like I said, I will always be a smoker. Even when I am not smoking. True smokers, even reformed ones, understand what I am saying. Those who don't, well, you fall into the non-true-smoker category, and you will never understand the appeal. And that's okay. Just don't anyone try to encourage me, or tell me that if I have willpower this should be a cinch. Or that smoking is disgusting, unhealthy, etc., etc. Given my current propensity to curse, I will probably tell you to fuck off. I appreciate the support, really, I do. But do me a favor and keep it to yourself. If you want to help, send me boxes of Altoids and Big Red gum. They are my new best friends. :-) Okay, I must get to work now, as the construction workers next door appear to be on break and there finally is QUIET. Have a nice weekend. hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Tuesday, May 24, 2005

just in from pakistan....


Big Jim sent me this photo today from Rawalpindi. :-) Hope to get back to regular blogging soon. hasta pronto, mylifeinspain P.S. You can click on the photo to enlarge. By the way, the man is grinding spices using a mortar and pestle. Although there is an open sewer just behind the spice cart, the man is NOT relieving himself (though this would be the correct position given his style of dress). (My mother wasn't quite sure what was going on, hence the need for explanation.)

Friday, May 20, 2005

happy friday

Just a quick message to let you know I haven't fallen off the earth (apparently my lack of postings had the parents worried; bless 'em for calling and checking on me today). I have just been busy with editing and catching up with the housework all week. I finally finished the entry on the second leg of our trip (started Tuesday) this morning. But all deadlines have been met, so I am taking the afternoon off to have lunch with a friend and to enjoy the gorgeous sunshine! :-) Hope you all have a nice weekend. hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Tuesday, May 17, 2005

part II: munich

Wednesday morning Big and I got up early and again went to Coffee Clatch---the third time in 36 hours---for breakfast. I can understand why T. loves this cafe so much...I could move in and live there. The giant bowls of coffee, the comfy chairs and sofas, the good music, and the large windows ideal for people watching. Not to mention the tomato and feta cheese omelettes. Breakfast is very simple in Spain, usually toast, so it was thrilling to receive a menu with so many tasty options. We then made our way to the Hauptbahnhof to catch our train to Munich. The previous day we checked the schedule, so we knew there was a train leaving at 1:00. We used the handy machines to buy our tickets, although this train was unreserved seating, so we knew we had to be there plenty early. First, we had a coffee and then went to the large press agent to stock up on reading material for the three-and-a-half hour journey. I picked up my usual New Yorker but was also surprised to see they stocked Bust, which is sort of the anti-Cosmo, and had to have a copy of that as well. The last stop before the train platform was to pick up sandwiches and fresh juice for the train ride. The route south to Munich passes through pretty quaint country towns, as well as some of the bigger cities like Stuttgart and Ulm. The time of the trip is almost equal to flying, with travel to the airports and boarding times included. With the added bonus of picturesque scenery, the train has become our preferred route of travel. At 4:30, we arrived in Big Jim's former home city, made our way through the bratwurst stands, and crossed the street to our hotel for the next three days, the Eden Hotel Wolff. I highly recommend this hotel to anyone traveling in Munich. The accommodations are topnotch, plus its location to the city center, as well as U and S bahn stations just on the corner, cannot be beat.
Our first evening Munich, we were treated to something I had never seen before, a double rainbow, just outside our hotel window. :-) After a brief rest, we went out for a walk, in search of food. We chose the Augustiner beer hall as the earlier rainy weather and coolish temps did not make a beer garden a viable option. Little time was required for us to decide on wurst, sauerkraut, and weiss beer, yum yum. We then strolled back toward the hotel, stopping off at one of Big Jim's old watering holes, the Schiller Cafe. This would be the place where Big Jim took my brother for "one" beer a few years ago, only to return at 3:30 am, after hitting the schnapps. The Schiller Cafe never closes; they get around the law by moving patrons to one side of the bar for 30 minutes, shutting half the bar for cleaning, and then shifting the barflies back as they tidy the other side. Charlie, the old-time manager and former boxer, was delighted to see his old friend, and we were rewarded with more weiss beer. Tired, though, from the day's journey (being a tourist can be very tiring!), we were back in the hotel room before 1 and quickly drifted off to sleep. Until 4 am, when Big Jim woke me. He was sick, very sick. Will spare the details, but suffice to say, it wasn't pretty. After a couple hours, he managed to fall asleep again, and I didn't wake him until almost noon. We were to be at the wedding party in seven hours. Big Jim seemed to feel much better, and he no longer had much of a fever. We decided a walk and some fresh air would do him good, but first we unpacked our clothes for the wedding. It was at this time that we realized the tuxedo shirt we bought only had one cufflink. Ugh! Normally, this would not have been a problem; we could easily pick up a pair at one of the myriad department stores in the center of Munich. But no, it was a holiday, so everything was shut. My thoughts drifted to the entire dresser drawer full of Big Jim's cufflink collection back in the village.... On our way out of the hotel, we stopped to ask the desk manager if he had any suggestions; he recommended we try the tourist kiosks, as well as the shops in the Hauptbahnhof. Encouraged, we set out in search of cufflinks. But none were to be had. Anywhere. We even walked to the Four Seasons Hotel, thinking they would have a men's shop that would certainly be open. Nope, it would shut for the day. By now, even Big Jim was hungry, so we stopped off for a sushi lunch at an excellent place right across the road from the Hofbrauhaus. As I watched the stream of tourists entering this beer-drinking tourist mecca, I got an idea: the HBH gift shop would certainly sell cufflinks. Wrong again, but we came up with an alternative, the souvenir tackpins. We bought two matching ones, chuckling at our brilliant, albeit tacky, solution. Celebrated by having a coffee and decadent cake. Except that at 6:30 pm, 30 minutes before the wedding party was to start, we realized that the posts were too short for the double cuff on Big Jim's shirt. Frantically, we searched the room and our bags for anything that could pass as a cufflink. For some reason, Big Jim had two plastic whistles on red cords (left over from New Year's Eve) in his backpack. First, I thought I could make little fasteners from the strings, but then we noticed the wire rings, not unlike those on a keyring, attaching the whistle to the cord. Yes, these would work. Wahoo! We slid them through the holes in the shirt and dashed for a taxi.
Fruit display at Kaufhof's. The wedding party was held at the Hilton at Tucher Park. We rushed into the lobby and what did we find? A men's shop. And it was still open. :-) We asked the startled saleman if he had cufflinks, and he led us to a glass case. Big Jim picked out a nice pair, as he told the older man our story. He chuckled when he saw our makeshift cufflinks, but gave us kudos for creativity. We made our way to the fifteenth floor and were relieved to see the cocktail hour was in full swing...and that we weren't the last to arrive. We were seated at the table reserved for the distant relatives and assorted friends, but as it turned out, we could not have had better people to spend the night with. E. and R., American and German now living in Ventura, CA, were really nice, interesting, and well-traveled people. The others seated with us were a younger couple from England and their two daughters, aged 2 and 4, who were incredibly cute and particularly well behaved, considering they had gotten up at 5 am for their flight and only napped for an hour in the afternoon. They partied with the grownups until 1 am. Big Jim had worked with most of the people there, so he had a good time catching up on their news. The guests were a complete mix of folks from all over Europe, South Africa, and the Americas, so many languages and accents could be heard. We stayed until the early morning, after the Cuban cigars had been brought out but before the second meal was served at 2 am. I was glad I had gone with the black dress. People kept telling me I was silly to follow black-tie wedding convention and that I would feel the fool when I turned up and everyone was dressed in springy floral frocks. Not the case at all. There were only two younger women not in black, and they seemed to feel out of place. Contrary to M.A., who said a room full of women in black dresses would look like a funeral, the effect was of a party full of posh people (and somehow Big Jim and I had fooled them into letting us join them!).
The famous Alois Dahlmayers.... Friday was all about food. After having a bit of a lie-in, we were off to the wonderful food halls of Munich....Hertie, Kaufhof, and the granddaddy of them all, Dahlmayer's. I feel like a wide-eyed child again, perusing the giant Sear's Christmas catalogue, so many amazing potentialities. Our shopping baskets quickly fill...Italian cheeses, Asian noodles, tofu, Crisco (yes, Crisco, which can't be found ANYWHERE in the Iberian penisula). I think twice about the Pop tarts, only because my mother and I were recently discussing how long it has been since we have eaten one of these disgusting breakfast sugar jolts, but decide no, as they don't have the chocolate fudge flavor. That evening we spent with our friends D. and S. D. is a fantastic cook, and we chowed down on duck, stuffing, asparagus (twas spargel season in Germany), roasted potatoes, his homemade bread rolls (two kinds), poached pears, and cheese, all while catching up on their lives. At 1 am, we reluctantly pulled ourselves away from the fun to make the last U bahn ride back to the center. Saturday morning we would leave Germany for a few days, returning to Brussels, the scene of the "crime", ie, where Big Jim and I met eight years previously. :-) hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Saturday, May 14, 2005

trip recap: part I, frankfurt


View from rooftop cafe in center of Frankfurt. I particularly like the clouds here....we saw many clouds on the trip. I arrived in Frankfurt right smack on time and was greeted at arrivals by Big Jim, our friend T., and his friend the other Big Jim (henceforth referred to as the other BJ). I had heard much of the other BJ and was extremely curious to meet him in the flesh. He recently returned to living in the UK after working for Amnesty International in Japan. However, even more interesting about the other BJ is how he supplemented his AI income while there: he became certified as a "Christian priest" at a wedding chapel. Apparently, there is high demand for Vegas-style weddings in Japan, and thus the other BJ was much sought after. After eventually finding T's black BMW in the sea of black BMWs that is the Frankfurt airport parking garage, we went back to his place, dropped off my bags, and then headed out for a beverage (or two). The first stop was right around the corner from T's apartment, the previously mentioned Coffee Clatch, which in the evening becomes a terraced restaurant serving mainly veggie meals. Just before midnight, though, we had to make a mad dash to another bar a couple blocks away. One of T's friends was celebrating her birthday at 12:00 am, so the free champagne was a major draw. :-) The women told us there had never been so many men present at the place before (was a lesbian bar), but took it in good stride and then proceeded to whip the boys' butts in fussball (or as the English call "table football"). At 1 or so both Big Jim and I started to flag as the day of traveling was catching up with us, so we called it a night. The next morning, we accompanied the other BJ to breakfast at the Clatch and then to the tube station for his flight back to the UK. Would have been nice to spend more time with him, but then again I still had the original Big Jim to amuse me. We set out on our wedding attire search as I mentioned in a previous entry. The dress I eventually found was purchased at a store called Peek & Cloppenberg. Should you ever find yourself in one of these shopping meccas, there are a few critical items you should know. First, after you have selected an article you want to purchase, don't expect to just take it to a cashier and pay for it. This is not how P&C works. You need to find one of the handful of never-present or always-occupied assistants, turn over the item to him/her, and take a receipt to the single register and pay for it there. While you wait in the inevitable long queue, the assistant will deliver the item and place in a cubicle behind the register. It is also better to do all your shopping first before going to pay. As Big Jim waited in line, I made the mistake of browsing the accessories section and finding a wrap that went perfectly with the dress. It then took fifteen minutes to track down one of these assistant people, during which time the check-out queue grew even longer. Okay, we finally are next up, and here is the second important thing to know about P&C: despite being a large department store chain in the banking center that is Frankfurt, they accept neither Visa nor Mastercard....only a German debit card or American Express, which is what we used in the end (after Big Jim threw a "I can't believe this" sort of hissy fit, which fortunately the cashier didn't understand much of because she spoke Russian). After paying, you are still not done. You then take your "paid" receipt and join another line to pick up the packed and bagged purchases. I don't necessarily have a problem with the system per se, but in a country with near 12% unemployment, P&C hire more staff!
A happy Big Jim, after one of our "coffee and cake" lunches. On the way back to T's apartment, Big Jim & I stopped at Cafe Wacker for a beer (BJ) and a glass of wine (me), and later we joined T and a couple friends at an Italian restaurant called Golfo di Napoli. Get the carpaccio and anything fish. Skip most pasta unless you like it overboiled....true for most pasta I've had in Germany actually. But I figured at this place, with owners from Rome, I'd give it shot. Unfortunately, my plate of lovely handmade ravioli was soggy, soggy, soggy. Everything else, though, including our dessert of tiramisu (my favorite) was supergood. Had an early-ish night because Big Jim and I were off to Munich the next day. To be continued.... hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Friday, May 13, 2005

vacation over

Am back in the village, although I am admittedly a bit ambivalent about it all at the moment. Postvacation blues I suppose.... At this time yesterday I wasn't sure where I would be today. Lufthansa had severely overbooked my flight, by like 40 seats or so, and despite purchasing my ticket well in advance found myself on the waiting list, which was one step up from standby in the seatless hierarchy. After patiently queuing as I was taught to do as a preschool student, I eventually got fed up of being pushed aside by the masses and shoved myself to the front desk, only to be told for the third time that there still was no seat for me. I gave up and went to the conveniently located smoking area just across the corridor and waited there. In the end, I got on the flight, but not without losing two days worth of vacation relaxation bliss from the stress of it all. Was lovely sunny and hot when we touched down in Malaga. Francisco the taxista was waiting for me at the arrivals gate, all cheery. The ride home was painless as he filled me in on the latest town news. As we started the climb up the mountain, however, the warm sun was replaced by dense rain clouds and a dramatic drop in temperature, and we just made it to the front door with my luggage before the heavens opened. C.K. awoke from her sleep to greet me and then demand more food be added to her already-filled bowl. When the shower passed, I went out to buy necessities: milk, juice, and bread for my breakfast. I came home to check on the plants and was sad to see they were neglected while I was away. Several were completely dead, and most looked starved for attention. :-( I understand now why Big Jim was angry with me when I didn't look after his peppers properly a couple years ago when he was away for a job interview. Some of these I had raised from seed, and this being my first serious foray into gardening, I was quite pleased with their progress. And now I find myself having to start over. C. owes me a trip to the garden center! (minus 1 more vacation bliss day; total remaining, 8). This morning I woke early and went out to inspect the road works. Various bits of the village are torn up because, get this, the electric company is finally putting the cables underground. I must take some photos before the work is completed so that you can see the current setup. Although that said, Big Jim's photos of the same from Pakistan make our wiring look extremely sophisticated. In other sections of town, streets have been dug up to replace water/sewage pipes. This too is a long-needed improvement because---how can I say this delicately---the village can be a bit smelly at times. So anyway, the purpose of my walk was to plan my route out of town so that I could pick up the pups at the kennels. Our normal way out of the village is currently cut off, forcing a normally one-way "street" to become a free for all. It would not be easy, but it was doable. Managed to get to Kosydale without event and was knocked over by two incredibly delighted dogs. It is so good to have them back. :-) On the way back through the village, however, I tried to pull over to allow another car to pass and instead hit the curb, hard enough to flatten the tire (minus 4 more vacation relaxation bliss days; total remaining, 4). Fortunately, I could park up easily enough and walked the dogs home. But ugh...got all upset with myself for doing something so stupid. This was the first time I drove since the eye problems started almost four months ago, and I didn't need it today. Sent off a pitiful e-mail to Big Jim and then went to the garage to arrange for them to tow it and check out the car, replace the tire, etc. I am also going to have them put on some additional mirrors to help me with seeing the curb. As I walked home rather dejectedly, cursing my feeble eye, I passed through the village carpark. I went up and down the rows, admiring the dents, the scrapes, the duct-taped bumpers, and could not help but smile. Yes, it is going to be a big adjustment for me to learn to drive again with my lame eye, but it was nice to be reminded that these minor accidents are daily occurrences in this village. Plus, Big Jim later skyped and reminded me that the tire in question had been a bit iffy anyway, so no worries (0.5 vacation relaxation bliss day restored; total remaining 4.5). So now I am off to deal with the unpacking and the laundry. The sun has returned, so it is looking like a more promising wash day. The pups are fast asleep, exhausted from their kennel play. Will sort out trip photos and post soon. And I will cling to these last 4.5 vacation relaxation bliss days like nobody's business. hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Wednesday, May 11, 2005

back in frankfurt

Back in a techno-friendly world again. Have had a fabulous vacation (so far) and will post detailed update when I am back in Spain later this week (including pictures). Big Jim and I have had the best fun shopping food halls and ethnic markets, stocking up on noodles and mustards and all sorts of things that we cannot get in Spain or have to spend a pretty penny on. One of the surprises we have had is that all food prices are on par and in many cases cheaper than in our part of Spain. We have also spent many hours just sitting in cafes and having coffee and watching the world pass by---all feels rather decadent actually. Off to shower now and then we will head out to Coffee Clatch, which has become our breakfast spot in Ts Frankfurt neighborhood....excellent tomato/feta cheese omelettes. :-) hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Wednesday, May 04, 2005

frankfurt

Just a quick message from our friend T´s house as I have not quite mastered the German keyboard. Uneventful and safe flights for both of us and have had good fun visiting w/ T and his other houseguest J. T lives in Bornheim, which is a very neighborhoody section of the city...lots of interesting cafes, tree-lined streets, etc. The weather has been cooperating with us and surprised everyone with a sun-filled, albeit humid, day yesterday. Big Jim and I spent most of the day out shopping for wedding necessities...a dress for me and a bowtie and shirt (because I had forgotten his tuxedo shirt in Spain, silly me). My dress proved most problematic as we found many crappy dresses made of that fake material that feels almost like plastic and few of decent quality. But in the end, we got a good dress. Thankfully, I have a husband who enjoys shopping even more than I; 98% of other men would have given up in a huff hours before Big Jim showed any signs of weariness. We took a break at one point and sat on a bench to people watch. I lamented how I was tired of seeing so many crappy dresses, and a pigeon roosting above added his personal exclamation mark to my statement by dropping a load on my leg. I know, I know, this is supposed to be good luck, and perhaps it was because we did find the good dress shortly thereafter. :-) Off to do a little more shopping now and then it is off to the train station for our journey to Munich. hasta pronto, mylifeinspain

Monday, May 02, 2005

all packed

...and soon off to bed. Must get up early to take the pups to the kennel, and then I have a few hours before I meet Francisco, my taxista, and leave for the airport. Am excited to see Big Jim, of course, as well as our friends in Germany and Belgium. As I wrote to my friend J.A.R., though, I wish I could take the BBC (our collective nickname for the pets, and coincidentally coined by J.A.R.) with me so that we could all hang out in bed together, like we do at home. Big Jim does miss his little Mr. Beebs so.... No plans to blog while traveling, although if we make a pitstop at an Internet cafe, I may post a quick update. Amuse yourselves by reading from the archives until I return, or just checking out the inside of my eye. :-) hasta luego, mylifeinspain
The white smudges incidentally are from our filthy scanner, which I was too lazy to dust.